Begum's Mind

I ain't sayin' she a gold digger...                        - Kanye West, "Gold Digger", 2005                           Is looking for financial security really wrong in a relationship? Popular culture seems to tell us (women, specifically) that we should not be chasing coins in a man, but instead be looking at his potential or his personality. You see countless tweets and Facebook statuses about men complaining that all women want is their money or that they are tired of women looking for status. Why can't we look at all of those things? When did it become a problem to want success in your partner? But she ain't messin' with no broke niggas... The idea of wanting money has become looked down upon so much, but why? Money and success seem to come hand in hand for a lot of people, hence the idea that a man/woman with full pockets is successful. Yes, we may measure success in different ways, but let's be honest, a full list o

Pas de trois ˌpä də ˈtwä/ noun noun:  pas de trois ; plural noun:  pas de trois a dance for three people. You like them, they like you (so you thought), but you know they’re still stuck on their ex . Wtf to do? This seems to be so common as I’ve gotten older. It’s like you meet someone who seems right in so many ways, but then you find out down the line that they have been semi-unavailable because they still have these tired ass feelings for an ex. Now, instead of the situation you two have growing and flourishing, you have to dance around a third person with hopes that it’ll fizzle on their end, or that you’ll possibly show them that you’re better than the last and to move on with you. (Whomp.) This now has become an issue. Instead of a thrilling tango meant for two, this has become a deadly pas de trois, without the elegance and prestige the ballet gives us. You are stuck with a murky outlook that only a horror film could bring. Let’s tak