Begum's Mind

My girl likes to sabotage our love...   - Wale, "Sabotage",  2011   So, I will hit this topic from two POVs: single and taken. Self-sabotaging can happen whether you are single and mingling or already in a relationship; It doesn't discriminate. __________ You ever sit back and wonder, " Damn, is it me? Am I the reason this shit isn't working or am I just not accepting bullshit?? Am I just too picky?! " Yup, I'm sure you have, and I am also sure you couldn't come to a conclusion during your talk with yourself. It's okay, we have all been there. Once again, I'm here to talk about the shit we sometimes keep in our heads (because you're not alone!). So, you've met someone new and you have standards and expectations you want met. You failed with the last person, and the person before that, oh, and the one before that and you're thinking maybe you're being too lenient, or maybe you're not being strict enough on t...

I ain't sayin' she a gold digger...                        - Kanye West, "Gold Digger", 2005                           Is looking for financial security really wrong in a relationship? Popular culture seems to tell us (women, specifically) that we should not be chasing coins in a man, but instead be looking at his potential or his personality. You see countless tweets and Facebook statuses about men complaining that all women want is their money or that they are tired of women looking for status. Why can't we look at all of those things? When did it become a problem to want success in your partner? But she ain't messin' with no broke niggas... The idea of wanting money has become looked down upon so much, but why? Money and success seem to come hand in hand for a lot of people, hence the idea that a man/woman with full pockets is suc...

...If You Wanna Go Somewhere ________________________________ At this point in life I think a lot of us spend too much time worrying about what our place/purpose in life is supposed to be. I mean, we aren't completely crazy for thinking about it, right? When we were in elementary we were always asked what we wanted to be when we grew up. Junior high rolled around and we suddenly had to think about possible talents we had that could boost our possibilities of getting into a college. Do you start sports? Should you play an instrument? Will you dance or cheer? High school made its way into your life and suddenly you were being ranked by your gpa and separated by your social class. Now, you've graduated or you're near it and you're wondering: well, what are my talents, what social class am I now? Is my gpa good enough to rank me in a job I want? Were these loans even worth it?! (Personal opinion: no, fuck those things! Lol) For a few lucky ones who got to snag...

  ...From a happily single person   ( because I can’t give you relationship advice, right? )  So it’s 2017 and you’re still single . You logged on to your Facebook or Instagram and saw all the happy holiday proposals and I know all you could think about was, “Whoa, they were in a relationship? But they were all up in my DM’s!” So you probably begrudgingly hit that “like” button or said “Congrats! 😍” as you cried on the inside. Alas, you’re inching towards 30 and you’re being reminded of how single you really are. You lonely mf, you. I’m here to let you know: It’s really going to be okay . Being single is great, you’re just doing it wrong! (‘Cause I said so!) Hold on to your britches and swallow your pride, because I have some advice for you on how to be single. My 5 Flawless Tips to Being Single and Happy as F***! (so you can get out of bed with a smile because you went to bed not getting cheated on; you woke up like this!) Stunt On Your E...